The idea of earthing, grounding, rooting down and allowing primal instincts to take over may have been perceived as more masculine throughout the past few hundred years, but recently there’s been a subtle uprising of earth mothers, warrior women and truly grounded girls coming together to support each other and empower themselves. Femininity may have once conjured up images of a meek and pretty lady or damsel in distress, but reconnecting to true femininity is about far more than layering on makeup, trying all too hard to be thin, or buying another pair of shoes.
Wheels of Energy
When it comes to working with the Chakras, these ancient ‘wheels’ of energy may not be visible to the naked eye, yet they’re incredibly powerful and potent. We may feel the symptoms of an out-of-balance chakra in our physical, emotional or mental aspects, in relationships, confidence levels, and the ability to adapt to life’s challenges. The root chakra, known in Sanskrit as Muladhara, is related to the base of the spine, the element of earth, sense of smell and colour red, and it’s also the place of our primal instincts, sense of safety, stability and grounded-ness. When the root chakra is out of balance, we’re likely to feel anxious and easily stressed, insecure, impatient, fearful, and ‘not enough’. Physical symptoms could manifest as issues arising in the pelvis and lower spine, feet and legs, bladder issues or constipation, and eating disorders and a lack of self care are also strongly linked to this place. Feeling truly safe and ‘at home’, and as though we can truly be ourselves is supportive for the root chakra, and when we’re thrown out of that basic safety, things can get difficult.
To be a female in this modern world is no small feat. We ask a lot of ourselves, which often comes in the form of self-enforced pressure to look and act a certain way, portray certain behaviours and suppress others, and manage a whirlwind of hormones. We spend a huge amount of time in a state of busy-ness and comparison, often feeling ‘not good enough’ and endlessly striving to be ‘enough’, eventually wondering what ‘enough’ actually is, and who gets to deciee if we’re actually it. Whilst the pressures to follow traditions of marriage, children and family, or juggling a modern career and squeezing in a social life, yoga class or gym session a few times per week may be ever present, we’re also fortunate enough to get a monthly reminder to slow down, reconnect to ourselves, and get real. The decision to listen to this reminder can make the difference between uncovering the wise, rooted feminine inside all of us, or remaining ungrounded and insecure.
Any woman who has been through disordered eating, excessive stress or obsessive exercise might know what it feels like to lose her sense of self; to feel disconnected and ungrounded, unsafe in her own body and a total loss of femininity. Any woman who has been through these things for a prolonged period of time might also know what it’s like to lose her monthly cycle. With the root chakra linked to the lower spine and pelvic floor, any menstrual issues can show up as root chakra imbalance, and any difficulty with the root chakra can in turn cause menstrual difficulties. A cycle doesn’t make a woman more feminine, but a female’s connection to herself, sense of being safe in her body, trusting of her intuition and knowledge that she is indeed Mother Earth in human form is incredibly important.
Grounded Goddesses & Fierce Females
Many female deities in Hindu culture are fierce and unapologetically powerful. Unlike the quiet, gentle faces of Roman goddesses or saints, the goddesses Kali and Durga are fierce and forceful, and even the more serene Lakshmi and Saraswati are some of the most powerful entities in the world of Hindu deities. These cosmic women are there to show us the potential power we all have within us. They’re there to show us that when we let go of comparison, labelling, worrying, trying too hard, bitching, and making ourselves too busy, we open the doors to becoming our true selves. When we allow ourselves to be our full selves, when we reconnect to our roots, our earth element and our basic needs of love, food, comfort and safety, we flourish and discover the strong, wise feminine within. When we get real and get grounded, we’re able to become an example of true woman-hood, an example of real femininity, an example for each other and younger female generations. Most importantly perhaps, we become an example to ourselves that what we might endlessly search outward for is actually deep within us, and requires more working in than working out, more rooting down than reaching up, and the courage to be truly unapologetically you.