As women, we are beautiful. We are strong. We are wise.
But not always.
There are days where we feel far from beautiful, strong and wise.
And that’s where the power of true sisterhood comes in.
There are days when we feel alone in our despair, isolated in our pain and confusion.
We feel unseen and unheard. We retreat into our sorrow and loneliness, withdraw from the world and become disconnected from light and love. We yearn to be seen and heard, to be understood. We long for someone to accept us, to believe in us, to stand with us.
For this is the truth: women heal in community. We need each other.
From the beginning of human history, woman have gathered together in true sisterhood. In societies all over the world, women have gathered together in true sisterhood. Women have always had a natural, intuitive knowledge of how to empower each other. Throughout time, women have intuitively embraced the joy of celebrating together, being there for each other, supporting one another and helping each other blossom and flourish.
Maybe that sense of connection is something we can lose sight of in the modern world. We fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others, of seeing other women as adversaries rather than sisters. We so easily put each other down, because in some small way, that makes us feel better about ourselves. We are jealous when a friend succeeds and secretly revel when a colleague messes up. We’re taught to be independent and self-sufficient: to need no one, to rely on no one. We’ve got this. We can do it alone.
But that day when you meet someone, and you immediately click and connect on a deep level, you know you have discovered something special. That day when you look around your group of friends and see something more than a group of friends, you know that this is something to be cherished. That day when you’re involved in a conversation and you intuitively sense that this is your tribe, you treasure that realisation.
Because having a tribe of women, a true sisterhood, who understand you, support you and love you unconditionally, is simply priceless. Our soul sisters are there to remind us that it’s good to be alive. They guide us back to our own inner light. They don’t have all the answers, but they support us in finding the answers we need within ourselves. They work with us to rebuild and renew.
What if there was a new way of being with other women, of restoring that sense of true sisterhood? What if we were to view other women as sisters in this world rather than rivals? What if you could choose to be a sister to any woman you meet – choose to truly see her, respect her, sit with her, become present with her? What if you were to take your place within a worldwide tribe of women, who were there for each other, speaking out for each other, looking out for each other, empowering each other?
If you’re asking how this could become more of a reality in your world then here are some key words to get you started: vulnerability, authenticity, availability, intimacy, reliability, reciprocity…
Let’s unpack those now.
Be real. Allow your sisters to see the REAL you – on the bad days as well as the good days. Trust them to accept you as you are. If you want other women to be real with you, then you have to start by being real with them. Create a safe space together where your true self can start to emerge.
Nurture these relationships. If she’s important to you, then make time for her.
Don’t try to fix anything. It’s fine not to be OK. If you’re going to say, “come as you are”, then you have to be prepared to truly accept her exactly where she is right now.
The above is true in the good times as well as the bad. You need to be able to celebrate her successes, to allow her to shine and have her moment. Seeing her blossom into the fullest expression of who she’s meant to be needs to be a source of joy, not envy.
Over time, it’s about giving and receiving in equal measure. You can’t be the one to always be giving, any more than you can be the one to always be taking. You have to be ready to give and to receive.
Practise forgiveness. This is key. You will have disagreements and misunderstandings, that’s normal. Learn to disagree well. Don’t easily take offence. Work for reconciliation and restoration. This is a sacred bond. Cherish it.
Modelling true sisterhood in our modern world is not easy. It takes courage and effort. But everything worth having in life takes courage and effort, doesn’t it?
And true sisterhood is definitely worth having.